Catfish: The TV Show

I'm watching "Catfish", and while I feel it's really strange to use someone else's pictures and lie to people, the episode I just watched made me cringe. The "Catfish" literally lied about how she looked, and that was it. The guy was actually in love with her, as in her actual personality. She started the catfishing to get back at him because he'd treated her badly (they'd spoke in person before), but ended up falling in love with him (which we all know can make people crazy). Anyway, it was intriguing to watch how he rejected her, when she turned out to be fat, but acted like a smitten little boy when he video chatted with the girl from the photos, who he didn't know.. at all (also, she completely out of his league). I think the catfish might actually have been the one who dodged a bullet in this case.

In the episode I'm currently watching, a girl is scared of meeting the guy she's talking to, because she has been photoshopping pictures of herself to look skinnier.. for 7½ years.  Did she not once in those 7½ years think that it would be quite easy to just, oh you know, lose weight? What world are we living in, when lying to people is easier than losing weight? Disgusting! Anyway, turns out the guy she's talking to is ALSO a catfish, and the photos he sent her weren't him at all. She looked SO disappointed that the modelesque guy she'd been thinking he was, which she incidentally said was the thing she cared the *least* about, turned out not to be that. So they meet and he turns out to be overweight as well, but everything else was true. She didn't receive a picture of him until the year before this meeting, so she's known him for 6½ years, and supposedly been in love with him for that time, before ever seeing a picture of him. "It's on the bottom of the list", she said of his appearance. When they meet she was prepared to meet someone else than who's in the pictures he's sent. He, however, had no idea that she's about 2 - 3 times larger than the photoshopped pictures portray. He doesn't flinch or seem to notice - he's still crazy about her, and wants to see where this could lead. She.. isn't as interested. She's very disappointed, and basically feels nothing for him (but his looks didn't matter). "I don't wanna sound.. superficial. I don't know if it's physical or.." Suddenly after seeing him she's just not "feeling it". She does think it's "contradictory" because she's "not small" either. Now she's giving him a speech about how she's at a "turning point" in her life, and that she's "not ready for a relationship" because she has to "love herself" first, which is obviously bullshit.

Him: I still wanna be there for you.. but I'm wondering if this is the last time I'll ever see you, or..

Her: Probably.

*AFTERWARDS*

"That was hard.. I just have to be myself right now. I finally like myself now, and I can't jeopardize that by being with someone.. not right now." Right.. that's why.

Anyway, apparently they were going to meet up again, so it might not be as bad as I initially thought. I guess it's a lot to take in, but still.. this show just really shows how superficial we all are, regardless of how we look ourselves. Wanting someone we're physically attracted to, is not superficiality. Claiming that you don't care at all how someone looks, that you love them etc. and then feeling nothing when they turn out to not be a model looking abzilla, however, is.

The show is really good, though, and the salt'n'pepper haired camera guy Max is really hot (oh the irony), so it's still worth a watch!


Yours,