Forgive and Forget

Men and women are always playfully arguing about which sex is the "stronger" sex. If we're to believe Pat Robertson, it is women. Now, my fellow women, let's not get ahead of ourselves; this is merely an interpretation of what he's saying, because apparently women are to blame for everything that men do wrong, therefore, we are obviously much more in control = we are stronger. Before I continue, I would like you to watch the video below:

"Males have a tendency to wander..  what you wanna do is create a home so wonderful, he doesn't want to wander."

Yes, your weakminded pig of a husband cheated on you because of *your* shortcomings. If only *you'd* been a better wife, he wouldn't have had to resort to cheating. It is not *he* who is the wrongdoer here, it's you. He is, after all, just a man, tempted by the porn industry and naked photos of women everywhere. Poor him.

You wanna know something? If your husband cheats on you, and you can't forgive him: leave him. If you can't forgive this ultimate act of betrayal, then don't. He doesn't deserve your forgiveness, and you shouldn't be forced to compromise your integrity. Eventually, for your own sanity, you should "let go", but it doesn't have to be *with* him. You can let  go apart from him, to make things with your kids easier, and also to relieve yourself of the negativity, but don't feel like you have to sacrifice your own self respect to save your marriage after *he* ruined it.

What pisses me off here is not just the fact that a man cheated, but how it's handled. Husband cheats on wife, wife is blamed for not fulfilling his needs, and told to use positive thinking to help her "get over it". She is ruining her own marriage by focusing so much on it. It's her fault. If a woman were to cheat on her husband, guess who's fault that'd be? Yes, the woman's. She is a Whore of Babylon, she should be stoned to death, how could she do that to her family, to her children, to her poor, poor husband who's always been such a wonderful man, giving her everything etc. Women can't win. We are always to blame for everything, including the shortcomings of men. Take responsibility for your own actions: if you cheat, it's your fault. Not your husband's, not your wife's, not the man or woman you cheat on your spouse with, it's YOUR OWN FAULT. Your decision, your fault. I don't care what's wrong in your marriage, I don't care if your spouse is to blame for every other problem you have (why didn't you leave, if it's so intolerable?): what you decide to do, with your own brain, using your own body, is you own decision, and therefore it is also YOUR OWN FAULT. Women, stop blaming your husband; if he's such a scumbag, you just sound more pathetic for staying with him. Men, stop blaming your wives; the Eve in the Garden of Eden story is getting old. Remember: when you blame others, you give up your power to change.